I meant that the Chinese people are not aware of their own entrapment. They believe they live in a free society but don't realize how much they are being monitored and controlled how much the information they receive is restricted and warped until they step out of line that is and feel the heavy hand of the state fall on them.
Women have always been the strong ones of the world. The men are always seeking from women a little pillow to put their heads down on. They are always longing for the mother who held them as infants.